#NothingtoLose Challenge: Week 1- Step Up to the Plate (Read Time: 4 min.)

NTL 2In the month of January, we are going to lift as we climb.  In other words, we have 3 objectives in January:

  1. Ingrain the #NothingtoLose approach into our lives (life and business- not separate, intertwined).
  2. Create a daily routine that reflects our commitment to MASSIVE Daily Action (MDAs).
  3. Take MASSIVE Daily Action (no excuses now so there won’t be regrets later).

During this week, here’s the challenge:

  1. If you haven’t read Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain, read it.  If you have read the book, do 2 things: 1) Re-read Chapters 1-8, 2) If you didn’t write a review of the book on Amazon, do so by the end of the week (Remember: Life is about what we give, not what we get).
  2. Create space in your office/home/bedroom for a #NothingtoLose tracking board.  I’ve posted a pic of mine on Instagram (http://www.instagram.com/KassandraBibas).  This is going to be your hub for your goals, objectives, and results.  It needs to be located in a place where you can see it daily and use it as a brainstorming/results review hub.  See this board as your visual for reporting, on a weekly basis, to your shareholders and stakeholders (at this moment, that could easily be YOU.  But, remember, YOU are the CEO of your life and the essence of your brand.  Report to yourself as you would a board of directors).  If you had to stand before a board at the end of each week, what would you want to show them?  What would they be expecting to see?  How easily could you use this board to demonstrate your accomplishments and pitch your ideas?  That’s how your board should look.  The first thing I want you to put up on your board (preferably smack dab in the middle of the board- see my board pic on Instagram for an example) are the 10 steps to being successful that @RyanBlair writes about on page 30.  You’ve got the book so the 10 steps are there 🙂
  3. Perform a 2014 Goal audit.  There’s only one question you need to answer if you’re going to experience MASSIVE success in 2015: What’s it going to take?  However, you can’t answer that question fully unless you know how you did and where you went wrong in 2014.  Spend some time this week (buy a journal just for #NothingtoLose or use Evernote) reviewing your 2014 year in business.  If your business is brand new, look at your life goals and review 2014.  Spend 5 minutes identifying your top 3 successes for last year.  No more than 5 minutes.  Anyone who’s a frequent reader of my blog knows one thing about me: I firmly believe that failure is a much greater teacher than success.  We want success but getting AND keeping it requires that we get SUPER good at learning from failure.  Pat yourself on the back for 5 minutes and let’s move to the more important thing: evaluating your top 3 failures from 2014.  Use @RyanBlair’s post mortem approach (on pages 35 and 36 of the book-hardcover) to evaluate your top 3 failures.
  4. Use the comments section to create accountability & connect with others. Comment below and identify what 3 steps you’ll take by the end of this week (Sunday, January 11th by midnight in your time zone) to ensure that you take a #NothingtoLose approach in your business and do not repeat the failures of 2014.  Follow up your comment as soon as you’ve completed all three steps.  I’ll be doing the same.

There it is.  And, if you need some extra motivation, listen to the weekly #NothingtoLoseChallenge SoundCloud audio I’ve created for Week 1.

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Take the #NothingToLose 12 Month Challenge with me… (Read Time: 2 min.)

FTF 3There is nothing more dangerous than someone with nothing to lose.

– Ryan Blair, Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain

2015 is now in full swing and it’s time to do things DIFFERENTLY.

As much as I love the 30, 60, and 90 day challenges, let’s get real:

Being consistent and persistent in an area for 90 days IS NOT going to transform your entire life or business if that’s the only amount of time you spend being consistent AND persistent.  It won’t.

And what I see most people doing is just that: jumping on board for a 12 week challenge, feeling gung-ho about it for the first two or three weeks, hanging on for another 3 or 4 weeks, barely finishing out the 12 weeks and then returning to their “normal” lives where they don’t remain consistent and persistent over the long haul.

It’s time to stop that.

It’s time to stop buying books that we read, feel great about but never do anything with.

It’s time to stop the need for immediate gratification ALL OF THE TIME.

Commitment means that you do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.  The words of Elbert Hubbard.  #justsayin

So I’m on a mission this year.  I could read 12-30 books this year and get a tidbit out of each of them (you know, a feel good moment, an AHA realization or a “Yeah, I should do that” nod of approval) but I’m trying something different this year.  In 2015, I’m going to use ONE book as my flagship approach.  This one book is going to be what I focus my efforts on, how I approach my day to day and week to week and, then, on December 31st, 2015, I’m going to evaluate the results.

I’m inviting you to join me on this 12 month challenge.  

On average, it takes 10,000 hours to achieve mastery of any skill set.

We’re going to spend the next 12 months mastering the “Nothing to Lose” approach to business.  If you don’t have a business or don’t plan on starting a business this year, this is probably not the 12 month challenge for you.  If you’re an entrepreneur, you’ve come to the right place.

Here’s how it’s going to work:

Step 1: Read Ryan Blair’s book, Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain: How I Went from Gang Member to Multimillionaire Entrepreneur
Library, Amazon, a friend.  Get the book, read it, soak it in.  That’s going to be the foundation of this entire 12 months.  I’ll be talking about the book.  However, if you haven’t read it, you won’t be able to fully participate in the challenge.  Invest in yourself: buy the book.

Step 2: Follow this blog so you get the weekly challenges in your inbox.  Every week, I’m going to post a #NothingtoLose Challenge.  Accountability happens when you post your questions, comments, and results as a comment for each week’s blog post.

Step 3: Keeping motivation and momentum going  via Twitter.  Let’s keep each other gung-ho by using the hashtag #NothingtoLoseChallenge.

Step 4: Do the work DAILY.  Daily massive action.  This book is a POWERHOUSE of information IF you use it.  A #NothingtoLose approach REQUIRES daily massive action.  Nothing less will do.

Are you ready? 

Let’s go!

 

Dismissing a Dream Because You’re Too Afraid to Want It- How to Stop That (Read Time: 3 min.)

log cabinI watched an amazing movie last night: This is Where I Leave You.  I love any type of family drama so add to the fact that it’s about a family of estranged siblings holding Shiva for their recently deceased father (and the mom is played by Jane Fonda) and I’m sold.  I expected tears and laughter.

What I didn’t expect was to rediscover a long lost dream.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to have a big family.  When I was eight years old, I’d walk down the street and see a big log cabin (the only log cabin in a fairly urban Bridgeport, CT) and I would promise myself two things:

  1. One day I’m going to have a log cabin as a vacation home and
  2. I’m going to have 8 children.  Don’t ask me where I got the number 8 but that was the number.

Fast forward twenty+ years and the log cabin isn’t here yet (that cabin will be in Park City, Utah) and I have 3 of the 8 children… but the other 5 still elude me… and I’m one month away from 37.  In watching this movie and being reminded of my childhood dream, it dawned on me:

At some point, I gave up on the idea of having “that” big family.  

When I say “that”, I mean the kind of family where the kids are close.  Yes, they fight.  Even as adults, they beat each other up on the front lawn… but they have each other’s back.  At some point, after a messy divorce and an even messier custody battle, after a heartbreaking miscarriage and a continued bout with infertility, at some point, I said to my subconscious, “Maybe “that” family is never going to come… Maybe I’ll have 1 or 2 more but it’ll never be “that.”  Just buy the log cabin in Park City and give the other dream up.”

Watching “This is Where I Leave You” last night woke me up.  It reminded me that the fear of never having the dream is NEVER a good reason to abandon it.

And that’s my Christmas reminder to you:

Do not dismiss a dream because you’re too afraid to want it.

Want it until you have nothing left in you to want it any more.

Go after it with the full desire of your heart.

Be open as the form of the dream shifts and transforms.

But NEVER, NEVER, NEVER give up.  

It’s not over until its over… and you’re still breathing.

Fear need not be the reason you say goodbye to a dream that was put in you for a reason.

Hold onto the dream.  Let go of the timing.  Trust the process.  Go after it…

What happens next will be some grand, wild adventure.  Enjoy it but do not let go of it…

Happy holidays!

I’d love to hear from you!

What’s one dream you’ve give up on (that maybe you didn’t realize you’d given up on)?

What will you do to bring that dream back into

the forefront of your desire, your heart, and your actions?

you never know

Afraid to Start Over? 6 AHAs to Help You Go Back to the Drawing Board Courageously… (Read Time: 5 min.)

FTF 2I despise starting over… A project, a blog post, a workout, a relationship, a career… To this date, I haven’t met anyone who absolutely LOVES the idea of scratching EVERYTHING they’ve worked on so far… to begin again.

Except for one small detail:

You never really “start over.”

I know… let’s go there…

Once upon a time, I started a film production company called “Clean Slate Films.”  I liked the idea of a clean slate, a releasing and washing away of the past, not allowing anything negative to linger, and starting again… from scratch.  However, the name of the prod. co. was a bit tongue and cheek.  At that point, I was young enough to “begin again” and old enough to know that there is no such thing as a “clean slate” (meaning erase everything that happened before, pretend like it never happened, and start your life over).  No, that rewind-in-time isn’t in existence yet…

What I did understand and what I’m starting to figure out as I get older is a new and VERY uncomfortable epiphany:

Unless you learn the lessons from the past, you are doomed to repeat them in the future.

Let me spin it in a more positive way:

Starting over allows you to begin again… this time, more wisely.

You get the benefit of all the experiences you had where things didn’t work.  You get the cost of having used up those hours, days, months and years gaining those experiences… But you also get a second chance to do things differently… and here’s where the fun comes in.

So often, we’re afraid to “wipe the slate clean” or “go back to the drawing board” because we’re pissed about all the lost time:

“I spent 10 years in that relationship!”

“I wasted five years of my life at that job!”

“I gave him/her the best years of my life!”

I could go on and on but you get my drift…

We’re stuck because, on the one hand, starting again means we lost time and, on the other hand, starting again means we didn’t do it “perfectly” the first time… Oy vey!  For us overachieving perfectionists, it’s a real WHAMMY to the ego!

But what happens when we look at this “starting over” idea differently?

Is it possible that going back to the drawing board has less to do with fear and more to do with courage?

Of course… it does!

So here are some AHA ways to get over the fear of wiping the slate clean, going back to the drawing board, and beginning again (this time more wisely):

AHA #1: You could’ve been there longer… Oh come on now… You feel me on this one, don’t you?  Yes, maybe you wasted 10 years of your life in that awful relationship but guess what?  You could’ve spent 30 years… Hmm… and lots of people do… #justsayin’

AHA #2: You needed to be where you were to learn the things you could ONLY learn from those people in those situations.  Ever feel abandoned?  Ever lose the respect or love of someone you always thought would be there?  Ever lose out on a job or a gig or a client because of some underhanded move by somebody else?  Totally sucks in the moment.  But here’s the thing: You were meant to be there, in that moment, experiencing that level of suckiness, not because you have bad luck or because life is a real jerk but because, in that experience, you had to learn some things about what matters… and what doesn’t.  Now… if you CHOOSE not to get the lesson in that experience, life will present you with another experience, opportunity and showdown to pass the final exam again but here’s the beauty of the school of life: you get to learn at your own pace.  My advice: learn the lesson THIS time around…

AHA #3: The thing you keep falling to is EXACTLY the thing you need to rise above.  I’m speaking to myself now… There have been experiences in my life where I have felt fear, doubt, and shame… and I have allowed those triplets to bring me to my knees to the point where I have bowed before my problems and surrendered before the battle ever started.  Here’s what I’m learning this time around: success has everything to do with the fight and NOTHING to do with insecurity.  In other words, if you keep coming across a certain battle of the mind and, every time, you quiver in fear before it and you allow it to conquer you, that battle will rage on until you find the strength necessary to rise above it.  Battered, beaten, and tossed aside, you are FAR STRONGER than any fear, doubt, or bout with guilt, shame, or blame you will ever experience in your life.  The moment you understand this, your fear will turn into courage for one reason and one reason only: you made it so…

AHA #4: You weren’t born to play it safe.  I was watching an episode of “The Affair” last night on Showtime (Google it- great writing, amazing cast, I can’t not watch it) and the couple (for whom the husband cheated on his “perfect” wife) were in therapy and the wife said, “I chose you because you were safe…”  That statement… can you imagine if your partner or spouse said that in a therapy session about you?  “I didn’t choose you for love, lust, passion, or the absolute belief that we are soul mates… I chose you because you were the safe choice…”  OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!  But, so often in life, we choose circumstances, people, situations, and professional endeavors for that exact reason.  We don’t follow our passion, our purpose or our joy.  We follow safety, somehow beleiving that “safe” will give us less trouble than anything else.  Let me help you out: LIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We weren’t born to play it safe people.  It’s not in our DNA.  Our brains are programmed to run from dinosaurs and to slay tigers (PETA, please don’t call me- I’m talking pre-historic times here).  We were not built to live in little 2,000 square foot boxes, driving little cars, and enjoying the grass grow behind cute white fences.  Suburbia has us fooled people!  As they say in New York City, it’s a concrete jungle!  And we’re built for it so let’s stop acting like we’re not.

AHA #5: All the success you want is located in a place called “unchartered territory” and exploring unchartered territory requires that you release the old so you can embrace the new.  Excellence doesn’t come in increments.  It comes through exploration, investigation, and taking risks.  Those things don’t happen overnight but they also don’t happen within comfort zones.  You’ve got to be willing to throw out what’s not working and start again, even when you don’t know how.  It’s a risk you take but there’s no way to have space for something new if the old, stinky stuff are still in the building.  To make room, you have to let old things go.

AHA #6: You have to be willing to push yourself HARDER and for LONGER than anyone else is ever going to push you.  The only way you’ll completely accept that you don’t have limits is by pushing EVERY single one of them to the brink.  You don’t do that without hard work and perseverance.  It doesn’t happen on a stroll down the block or during a vacation.  I love meditation but part of the reason that meditation is so powerful is because it forces you to see your life, body, and mind in a way that defies your logic.  In essence, every time you meditate, you are transcending another limit.  But let’s not confuse zen with non-movement.  You need zen to transcend but you also need to keep it moving!

So what am I saying?

If you get the sense that it’s time to go back to the drawing board…

on a project, on a business, on a career, on a relationship (Yes, I said it…),

STOP PROCRASTINATING and start over!

This time more wisely…

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

What is one thing that you have a feeling you need to go back to the drawing board on?  

What step will you take this week to begin again? 

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