How Many Hits Can You Take? The Fear of Too Much Trial, Tragedy, & Tribulation (Read Time: 4 min.)

resiliency“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”

– Rocky Balboa

The above is a great quote, isn’t it?

It reminds us that life can be blissful or brutal, a teacher or a coach but life will not, at any moment, be neutral.  The unfortunate reality of a quote like the one from Rocky is that it can help someone feel good about the trials they’ve been through once they’ve been through and beyond them but a pump-you-up-to-prepare-you-for-success quote will never answer the one question most people have about the consistency with which they experience highs and lows:

Why does this keep happening to ME?

Nobody’s going to answer that question.  Three reasons why:

  1. If you expect more trial and tribulation, you’ll get more than you would’ve gotten had you not expected more.
  2. Life is, by nature, up and down, ying and yang so if you haven’t embraced the concept of life, you will get offered experience after experience through which to surrender to it and finally say, “I’ll roll with the punches.”
  3. Nobody really knows…

But that doesn’t change the fact that it sucks to get hit time and time again.  It doesn’t feel good to recover from one fight only to find yourself in another.  It’s not fun when you overcome one major obstacle and find yourself swerving around another one and another one and another one…  It sucks!

So what do you do when you refuse to enjoy the moments of calm because you’re bracing for an impending drama that you can’t even see coming?

You see the consistency of your trials through a warrior’s eyes.

You see, warriors never stop being warriors… even when there is no war.  They never stop training their minds and their bodies because they understand that, at any moment, the wind could change and their strength will be required in an instant.  In fact, the best warriors love a fight because they see an impending battle as a means to develop, refine, grow and become better.

Now… what if we looked at our life “hits” in the same way?

What if, instead of throwing our hands in the air and saying, “Here we go again!”, we straightened our backs, lifted our heads, put up our fists and said to life, “Bring it on!”

Would not the experience of the trauma be better?  It would.

Would not the effect of the tribulation be more positive?  It would.

Would not our outlook on life be more resilient and powerful?  It would.

So, at the end of the day, life is going to give you everything it’s got: the good, the bad and the ugly.  However, you get to decide how you take it, what you do with it and what you give life back.

The next time a drama is looming, remember these three choices and make them wisely…

No more fear of life hits.

When life hits you hard, hit back harder, not with resistance and complaints but with strength and curiosity…




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