It’ll take more than you’ve ever given, for longer than you’ve ever given it, with NO GUARANTEE of results or success and NO ability to keep a Plan B in your side pocket at all times.
In a word, it’s a risk… and you don’t like risks… or, at least, not risks that come with little guarantee of coming out on top, making things happen or looking confident even if things are falling apart.
No, you don’t like the “fall-flat-on-my-face-while-everyone’s-waiting-watching-and-saying-I-told-you-so” life adventures.
And, yet, this is the territory in which your “BIG” dream lives.
So what do you do?
In today’s post, we’re going to talk about the why, what and how of getting over the fear of pursuing that BIG dream.
Because fear is not a signal to STOP; it’s a sign to PRESS forward.
You simply have to know how to do that.
If you’re going to turn your fear into fuel, you need to know the why, what and how of your fear…and that will differ depending on the fear, the goal, and the state of mind you’re in as you deal with it.
Let’s go over some WHY, WHAT, and HOW basics.
Why do you want this BIG dream?
Is it your dream… or someone else’s?
Are you pursuing it out of desire… or obligation?
Why does this dream need to come true in your lifetime… or does it?
Why will you be 90 years old and regretting not attaining the dream if you never pursue it?
The WHY gets to the bottom of whether YOU really want it… or if you can live without it.
What’s it going to take?
What resources (people, time, money, energy, etc.) will you need to see this thing all the way through?
What are your next three steps?
What do you need to do next?
What will you do if things go wrong?
What will you do if things go right?
What will you do to stay motivated when you’re not “in the mood” to keep going?
What will you do once you “arrive”?
The WHAT helps to create the Massive Action Plan (MAP- from Tony Robbins) that will take you where you want to go (persistently, consistently with daily action).
How will I handle failure?
How will I handle success?
How will I choose to show up moment by moment, day by day and how is that consistent with who I REALLY am?
Notice there’s not one how question that says, “How will I ever get this done?” or “How will this ever happen?”
Both of those “how” questions are emotional landmines in disguise.
When you ask them (mentally or out loud), what you’re really saying is this: “There’s no way I can really do this so I’m going to psych myself out before I start so I don’t have to deal with disappointment at the end.” Don’t go there, don’t do it and when those two “how” questions come up, tell them to SDASU- in other words, Sit Down And Shut Up. #thatsall
Now that you understand the WHY, WHAT and HOW, it’s time to get real with your fear. One of the first steps to getting to the other side of fear, to turning your fear into fuel comes when you face the WHY, WHAT and HOW and you deal with it. I cover the nitty-gritty, step-by-step details in my upcoming online Fear-To-Fuel Acceleration Program but let me give you 3 tips on how to start the process:
Tip 1: Pick a 1-2 hour interval of time where you have the opportunity to get REAL with your fear. It helps if your mind is calm, the environment is quiet, and you’ve got a notebook and pen handy. This is done best when you are alone (i.e. no screaming/fighting children, no spouse asking “What’s for dinner?” and no friends pinging you via text, on Facebook or through email). Shut your devices off and get into a safe, calm space.
Tip 2: Via self-recording (most smartphones have a voice recording app on them) or by writing the responses down in your own handwriting, respond to the questions above. Do not over-think the process. Ask the question ONCE and allow whatever comes out of your mouth or on the page to be what it is. This is not a process that takes a week to do so do not allow it to drag on and on.
Tip 3: Go over your WHY, WHAT and HOW responses and ask yourself, “What will it take?” In other words, do you want your fears more than you want this dream? Get real about it…
Want more strategies? Join me on Tuesday, November 4th for a LIVE, FREE webinar called:
The Other Side of Fear:
7 Steps to Turn Your Fear into Fuel
Date: Tuesday, November 4th
Time: 7 pm EST, 6 pm CST, 5 pm MST, 4 pm PST
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Fear is not your friend but you can make it your ally…